# @breyeschow on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/C7iyY2hOSUd
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/18204640-breyeschow-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2024-05-29T07:12:12.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Bruce Reyes-Chow (@breyeschow) — https://gondola.cc/breyeschow

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Hot + Take + Tuesday: Overpromising

Excerpt . . . I would love to offer just-starting-out-in-ministry Bruce much advice, including “devalue and defund overworking,“ “trust the congregation more than people say you should,” and “go to more movies by yourself,” but battling for the top spot along with “don’t create chaos so you can swoop in and provide the calm” would be — “don’t overpromise.”

We have all done it.
I still do it more than I like to admit.
We all must be better about resisting it.

Whether born from ego or enthusiasm, we all know what it is like to promise to do something and not be able to follow through. No matter what end you are on the unfulfilled promise train, it sucks. Shame and shade are often directed at others or ourselves, and soon enough, we are tagged with the “Overpromiser” label that gets more and more difficult to shed with every subsequent unfulfilled vow.

More importantly, I think overpromising slowly eats away at our personal understanding of worth, relationships, and agency. When we overpromise, we reinforce the idea that we have to say yes, we fuel the hubris that tricks us into thinking we can do everything ourselves, and we further build our sense of worth upon a foundation of worldly meritocracies.

Overpromising is not just about letting others down, but losing ourselves.

Read the full post here: https://theamalgamation.substack.com/p/hot-take-tuesday-overpromising

#HotTake #Relationships #Productivity #GroupWork #Collaboration

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## Credits

| Name | Username | Profile | Role |
| --- | --- | --- | --- |
| Bruce Reyes-Chow | @breyeschow | https://gondola.cc/breyeschow | Writer/Author |

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groupwork, hottake, relationships, collaboration, productivity

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