# @tonyhoffmanspeaking on Facebook

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- **Original URL:** https://www.facebook.com/1555892947992391/posts/2737050929876581
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/18452073-tonyhoffmanspeaking-facebook
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- **Posted:** 2020-10-07T21:26:05.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Tony Hoffman (@tonyhoffmanspeaking) — https://gondola.cc/tonyhoffmanspeaking

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FEEL ISN'T ALWAYS REAL
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In my past whenever I was challenged in life either by the consequences of a choice I made or a specific event that occured, the feelings I experienced were always at the center of my running, quitting & self sabotaging
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Running from correction
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Running from growth
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Running from opportunity
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And the biggest reason I ran was because at the time I was incapable of handling the feelings that surrounded these events
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The reason I was incapable of handling my feelings was not because of the feelings themselves, don't miss this 
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It was because of the story I created around my feelings
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When I was confronted with feelings that were uncomfortable I always had a self destructive story attached to them
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I'm not good enough
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I can't do this
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People don't like me
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People always abandon me
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I'm not lovable
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I won't be able to do this 
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What I felt was very real, we can't deny the feelings we experience. It was the self destructive story that wasn't real, that was a choice. I chose to believe the negative story and that cemented a negative belief system and lower self worth I carried through my days
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Every day I lived to confirm the story and every time I felt uncomfortable feelings I continued to run more and life never seemed to get better
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Change for the better happened when I stopped denying myself the gift of feeling and worked my ass off to change the story I created behind them, one small choice at a time
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My feelings are no longer present to shame myself or confirm some negative story about who I am and what value I offer the world
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They are teachers
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Guides
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Indicators of areas I need to address to become a better person that provides greater value to the world
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Indicators of places I can grow to be more at peace
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One of the biggest lessons I've learned in life and sobriety is FEEL ISN'T ALWAYS REAL
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#OneChoice

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