# @violadavis on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/C80U9vtvMSn
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/20112182-violadavis-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2024-06-29T23:15:04.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Viola Davis (@violadavis) — https://gondola.cc/violadavis

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🙋🏿‍♀️😂💯❤️
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As I raise my incredible daughter, I’m so aware that our relationship is the social laboratory for relationships in her life. I do my absolute best to not take her willful moments personally, and to in fact, take pride in them. 

I want to provide her with the experience that her authenticity and attachment to me can co-exist, and sometimes, that authenticity is that she’s mad at me, not ready to repair, or needs to assert herself by disagreeing with me. 

As I was just telling a client, we don’t want to raise children who blindly follow authority (even, cough cough, ours 🙃), we need to raise children who know their own truth in the moment, feel comfortable speaking it and collaborating with others to meet ideally somewhere in the middle. 

And! When I get activated by her, I can recognize that I’ve got some old stories stuck in my system that I’m gradually rewriting about what girls and women should and should not do, be and say. 

What a gift, to have these lessons come wrapped up in the package of this precious child 🥰

#cyclebreakers #thisiswhatwedonow #healyes #healing #parenting #reparenting

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parenting, thisiswhatwedonow, healyes, healing, reparenting, cyclebreakers

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