# @thekoreanvegan on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DGO8ZObT4io
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/26782725-thekoreanvegan-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/67e50b6ea4.jpg
- **Posted:** 2025-02-19T00:00:00.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Joanne L. Molinaro, The Korean Vegan (@thekoreanvegan) — https://gondola.cc/thekoreanvegan

## Caption

“Competition is the thief of joy.”

It is always a fool’s errand to try and predict how the things I say will be misinterpreted, but I will do so anyway.

I am not sharing this to get brownie points or to make anyone feel bad or to make myself look better (I don’t know how anyone could view this as something to make me look good, but I’m sure someone will). And this one isn’t easy for me to share because I think it’s one of the uglier parts of me. I hate that I’m like this, but because I hate it so much, I force myself to confront it, head-on.

I share this because I’m guessing others feel similarly and I wanted to create a safe space for you to have those feelings, to acknowledge them, and possibly even to begin asking yourself WHY you have them. You don’t need to be a Korean American woman to feel threatened by other people’s success. But hopefully, you’re like me—you recognize the toxicity of this attitude and you want to do something about it.

Or maybe it’s just me (I’m sure there’ll be a chorus of “no it’s just you” below). And if so? Ok! Well, now I know.

It doesn’t change anything. I’ve still found the BEST way to get rid of my insecurities, the BEST way to feel good about my success without envying someone else’s, the BEST way to live my life is to support the women who, at first, intimidate me. And it’s not surprising that these women? These badass, powerful, empathetic, loving women? They make INCREDIBLE FRIENDS!!! When I think back on how many years I squandered being jealous of them instead of simply saying, “hey let’s be friends”? I feel so STUPID!!!! And I don’t want anyone to have that kind of regret.

Also, if you want the recipe for this Strawberry Cake? Comment “strawberry” below. And no, this is not a ploy to get you to comment on my post, I’m just doing this b/c a lot of you find it easier to get the recipe directly in your DMs.  If you want to go the long way around, you know how to do that, too. And if you honestly think I should use this space to provide you with the entire recipe in lieu of my writing, you have the wrong account.

[yes i’m feeling punchy today]

love you xoxo

#strawberrycake #cookingvideo #veganfood

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## Tags

veganfood, strawberrycake, cookingvideo

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