# @happilyevansafterr on Instagram

- **Type:** Image
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DJkiXn_NHo7
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/31839139-happilyevansafterr-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2025-05-12T22:50:13.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Ashley & Steven (@happilyevansafterr) — https://gondola.cc/happilyevansafterr

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Lately I just feel overwhelmed and honestly defeated. I don’t have the drive to do much of anything and I feel so out of my norm. I even took a pregnancy test to make sure that wasn’t the cause, but of course it was negative. I thought about signing off of social media for a while but turns out, you can’t just sign off when it’s your literal job to show up. I think that’s what encouraged me to start the bare miniMOM series… to encourage myself to just SHOW UP in every aspect of my life - even if it’s not perfect. Everyone wants to be an “influencer” because they see the fancy houses and cars, but they don’t see the toxicity behind influencer culture. They don’t realize that your entire self worth is based around people’s opinions of you. Your career quite literally relies on the approval of others. Do people like you enough to engage in your content? Do people trust your opinion enough to click on your link or buy a product you share? How much “influence” you have is what determines your worth in this industry and it’s honestly EXHAUSTING! I mean…I understand why people generate this “picture perfect” facade on social media - it gets views! That’s what we’re so easily intrigued by, but it honestly makes me feel like shit about myself. I said to Steven today: “OMG, can you believe so and so got a Chanel bag for Mother’s Day?!” As if my Mother’s Day wasn’t as great because my gift wasn’t Chanel… 🤦🏻‍♀️🤮 We all know the saying: “comparison is the thief of joy;” however, we’re  ALL guilty of it, and social media makes it so easy! And if all of that doesn’t seem so bad, try reading hateful comments/messages every single day. Because if you’re already doubting your own self worth, there’s someone else who hates themselves more and they’ll project that onto you to try and make you feel just as bad as they do! It’s fun, really. 😅 But this is why you can’t quit. You HAVE TO show up - even if it’s not perfect. Even if it’s not viral. You may only have 10 people cheering you on, but can you imagine standing in front of 10 actual people rooting for you?! 😭 #vulnerable #showingup #bareminimom #reallife

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bareminimom, reallife, showingup, vulnerable

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