# @melrobbins on TikTok

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbins/video/7572613942783036686
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/36957882-melrobbins-tiktok
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/aed6da4c4f.jpg
- **Posted:** 2025-11-14T16:09:53.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Mel Robbins (@melrobbins) — https://gondola.cc/melrobbins

## Caption

There’s something you need to hear: venting isn’t working.  According to a study from Ohio State University, when you vent and replay the drama over and over, you’re not releasing the anger - you’re reinforcing it. Venting feels good in the moment…but it is actually wiring your brain to stay angry.  That’s why it feels like nothing ever changes. You’re just reliving the same emotional loop. So here’s your challenge: The next time someone’s behavior starts to trigger you, don’t vent - pause. Use The Let Them Theory as your tool: Let Them act how they’re going to act. Let Me remember why I’m here. You’re not there to fix them. You’re there because you value connection, family, or peace - whatever your “why” is. When you ground yourself in that, you take your power back instantly. Chances are, you won’t - because you’ve given your nervous system time to settle down. In today’s episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, I’m sharing 5 powerful rules for dealing with difficult people - so you can stop reacting, start responding, and take your peace back. This episode drops Monday, November 17th 🎧 “5 Rules for Difficult Relationships: How to Take Back Your Peace & Power.” #melrobbins #melrobbinspodcast #venting #letthem

## Stats

- **Views:** 162,900
- **Likes:** 8,559
- **Shares:** 2,078
- **Comments:** 142

## Tags

melrobbinspodcast, venting, melrobbins, letthem

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