# @hortonlane_ on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/C3i9gs0vsin
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/38133559-hortonlane-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2024-02-19T22:44:42.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Chrissy Horton (@hortonlane_) — https://gondola.cc/hortonlane_

## Caption

How we find time to be intimate after having kids ❤️🔥

I am pregnant with my 6th kid in 8 years and a big question I get asked is, “HOW?!”

“How on earth do y’all have the energy?”

“How do you find the time?”

“Do all your kids sleep through the night?” (No)

“Does the baby sleep through the night?” (Absolutely not! 😴)

“Do your kids go to bed super early” (I wish!!! But, no)

So when do we find the time to do it?? 

Some nights all the kids take shifts in waking up or the baby won’t stay asleep, but despite all that we still get some nights where they are all asleep at the same time as we get into bed (even if it’s just for 20 minutes). Sometimes this means giving up tv for the night or getting off our phones or to stop working. 

But whenever we don’t have a kid in our bed we always cuddle and that usually leads to things 😉

As stated in the video, sacrificing sleep in order to be intimate may seem like a lot of energy in the moment, but it will actually give your relationship more energy AND energize you! ❤️❤️

Now, it’s important to note we don’t do this out of guilt or pressure. It’s also important to note that it isn’t always hot and heavy with us 24/7. Each couple has different seasons of life. ❤️

Despite what some articles or videos want to tell you, there is no magic number in how many times per week or per month that ensure a healthy seggs life. It is truly dependent on each couple since each couple has different needs. As long as the two of you are communicating, and are the same page, how intimate the two of you are is 💯 up to you two!! Do not compare! “Comparison is the thief of joy” ❤️

Now for me, when I notice it’s been a while since we were last intimate my husband and I will take a moment to evaluate why. Is it due to something in our relationship? Or is it external factors? Is it the temporary season we are in? Once we can pinpoint what it may be, we can better communicate and make sure we are the same page ❤️

Remember, you are spending the rest of your life with each other. It’s going to ebb and flow. Just like life, it can’t be hot and heavy 24/7. ❤️❤️

#postpartumjourney #newparentslife #marriageafterkids #newparents

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