# @theworkspaceforchildren on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DU0uhPZAOtw
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/56486565-theworkspaceforchildren-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/b48512c176.jpg
- **Posted:** 2026-02-16T15:35:54.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Lizzie Assa, MsED| Play and Parenting (@theworkspaceforchildren) — https://gondola.cc/theworkspaceforchildren

## Caption

This is an old video of my girls when they were 5 and 8. I shared a clip in stories the other day and someone asked how to manage the fighting. 
➡️If I had jumped in at the first sign of conflict and corrected her? None of that gets practiced.
We’re so focused on teaching kids to share that we miss the fact that they’re already practicing something harder — advocating for themselves and coming back from frustration without falling apart.
➡️will this happen all the time? Nope. Sometimes I’ll feel frustrated and jump in. Some days they can’t self regulate. But the more we practice getting curious and giving space instead of moralizing their behavior, the better they get at self advocacy, problem solving and eventually working it out without us.
And that’s the whole point. We’re not raising kids who need us to solve every conflict. We’re raising kids who know what they feel, can say what they need, and can stay in the hard moment long enough to figure it out.
#selfadvocacy #siblingfights #butimbored

## Stats

- **Views:** 11,753
- **Likes:** 523
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- **Comments:** 12

## Tags

selfadvocacy, butimbored, siblingfights

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