# @sheisfila on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DVimGjrDdrC
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/59705007-sheisfila-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/23c2384041.jpg
- **Posted:** 2026-03-06T11:01:43.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Fila McMillan-Antwine (@sheisfila) — https://gondola.cc/sheisfila

## Caption

He didn't come to love you. He came to be saved by you. 💔

He told you about his childhood early. The absent father. The mother who wasn't there. The ways the world let him down. And your heart — because it's beautiful — cracked wide open for him.
You thought, this man just needs the right woman.

So you became his therapist. His safe space. His mother. His hype woman. His emotional punching bag on the hard days. You loved him through every trigger, every outburst, every moment he pushed you away and then pulled you back in.

And still… it was never enough.

That's the Abandoned Little Boy, Queen. He's not a villain — he's a wounded man who never did the work to become a whole man. And his wounds will quietly become your wounds if you're not careful.
You are a partner. Not a parent. Not a healer. Not a rehabilitation center. 👑

A man's childhood pain is real. And it is also NOT your responsibility to fix.
The right man will bring his healing TO the relationship — not expect the relationship to do the healing FOR him.

Drop a 🙋🏽‍♀️ if you've dated this one. Because sis… you are not alone.

Link in bio to work with me. 💌

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- **Views:** 187
- **Likes:** 9
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## Tags

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