# @tiffany.uman on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DNN6x2hO_s_
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/59919486-tiffanyuman-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2025-08-11T14:06:34.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Tiffany Uman (@tiffany.uman) — https://gondola.cc/tiffany.uman

## Caption

Stop making yourself smaller to protect someone else’s ego.

Their insecurity ≠ Your responsibility.

Instead, do these 3 things to speak up with confidence 👇
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→ 1. Reframe your mindset.

The moment you absorb someone’s discomfort as your own, you’ve already lost.

What’s really happening? They feel threatened by you.

If others can’t handle your strength, that’s their problem to fix, not yours.

→ 2. Show up direct, not defensive.

When you’re confident, people may call you too much.
When you’re vague, they call you unclear.

Don’t edit yourself mid-sentence to cushion others.

Say it, own it, and let them react.

🗣“Here’s what I believe is the best path forward. Let me explain why.”

→ 3. Don’t wait for permission.

Speak up before you’re invited to.
Not when it’s safe, but when it’s necessary.

🗣 “I’d like to build on that idea and offer a perspective that hasn’t been shared yet.”

Remember, if you sense tension after you speak up, don’t backtrack.

Hold the silence and let your words land.

That discomfort? That’s growth for them, not just you.

You’ve got this!
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