# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DUrZAP1E_VF
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/59933270-juleswaller-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-02-13T00:28:24.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

## Caption

Most school refusal advice focuses on behaviour.

That’s the problem.

From a developmental stress perspective, when a child’s nervous system has been under prolonged activation, the body shifts into protection mode.

In protection mode:
🔸The amygdala becomes hyper-reactive.
🔸The prefrontal cortex becomes less accessible.
🔸The body scans for threat cues - not explanations.

So when we repeat routines harder …
Explain consequences more clearly …
Increase structure …

We can unintentionally confirm to the nervous system:

🔹 “This is not safe.”

School refusal rarely begins with defiance.
It begins with accumulated load.

And when coping is mistaken for capacity, collapse looks sudden - but it isn’t.

If this reframed something for you, save it.

🍓And if you’re tired of advice that increases panic instead of reducing it - Follow.

This account is for parents navigating school refusal through safety, not pressure.

- Jules ❤️

#schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #childanxiety

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schoolrefusal, schoolanxiety, childanxiety

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