# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DTXs4Jhkx6D
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/59933394-juleswaller-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-01-11T12:25:52.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

## Caption

There’s a version of school refusal that gets talked about a lot.

The explosions.
The visible panic.
The days where everything falls apart.

But there’s another version that often comes first - and sometimes lasts longer.

Where you do everything you’re told.
You stay calm.
You reassure.
You stay consistent.

And instead of settling … things escalate.

Not because calm was wrong.
But because at a certain point, staying the same stops being neutral.

I didn’t recognise this stage at the time - until we were deep in it.

And it took distance, reflection, and understanding the nervous system to see why.

If this part of the journey feels familiar, you’re not behind.
You’re standing at a decision point most parents are never warned about.

- Jules ❤️

#schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #ittakesavilliage

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