# @movewithlottie on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DIbtPASI8FX
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/61115891-movewithlottie-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2025-04-14T16:00:00.000+00:00

## Caption

There’s no denying… heartbreak sucks 💔

It’s a whirlwind of emotions and whilst I truly believe that it’s important to feel through each one. It’s also equally important not to get stuck in sadness or anger to allow ourselves to move on and heal. 

At the minute, no contact isn’t an option for me as I’m still living in his house. So I thought I’d share the 3 things that are helping me to break my attachment to him, in the hope that it helps others to heal too 🫶🏻. 

❤️‍🩹CREATE AN “ICK LIST”
Make a note in your phone & list every single thing that you disliked about them, any icks, anything they did towards you that was disrespectful or anything that put a downer on your relationship. Then look at it whenever you catch yourself pining over him, or feeling sad about the break up… I have around 85 points on my list now & it helps to give perspective & to move on. *top tip… ask your friend and family if you’re struggling, there will be more than you think. 

❤️‍🩹TYPE OUT ALL THE MESSAGES YOU WANT TO SEND HIM BUT NEVER SEND THEM!!! 
Either create a note in your phone or write letters to your ex with all the things you want to say to them. Doing this helps you to process your thoughts & feelings without dealing with the backlash of sending them. The truth is… once it’s ended HE DOESN’T CARE. It’s actually much more powerful not to send them as you keep your own power rather than giving it to him & for him to leave you on read. 

❤️‍🩹INVEST IN SKILLS, HOBBIES, COURSES, YOURSELF
There is a saying that says, if you miss him then you aren’t busy enough… I agree with this to an extent however numbing & distracting isn’t really healing. On the other hand, if you work on improving yourself, your mindset, your physique, your knowledge then you’re pouring energy into something positive instead of pouring energy into a man that doesn’t want you. 

You are the centre of your life not a relationship or a job… those things are aspects of your life, but we create our own happiness… so go out & make it! 

#healing #heartbreak #detatchment #anxiousattachment #ex #relationshipadviceforwomen #toxicrelationship #healingjourney #healingtips #polersofig #polefit #femaleempowerment

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healingjourney, healingtips, anxiousattachment, healing, polersofig, polefit, detatchment, femaleempowerment, ex, toxicrelationship, heartbreak, relationshipadviceforwomen

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