# @anqiartworks on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/C1Vctg9IMbR
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/61338211-anqiartworks-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/9a6aa3ee16.jpg
- **Posted:** 2023-12-27T00:10:44.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** ANQI / Melek (安琪) (@anqiartworks) — https://gondola.cc/anqiartworks

## Caption

This was a story I shared a couple weeks ago.

I am out of the depressed mode mentioned here.

As the year ends I notice that I have become a "kind stranger" to others. What a big change from being a codependent person! 

I love being in touch with my authentic self. 

Whenever I get closer to someone, I find it difficult to resist enmeshment. I got so used to attune to the other person. I lose myself. 

This defense mechanism served me well when I felt like a stranger while living in Taiwan, US and Turkey. It helped me build relationships.

Slowly, my deep need to be approved and loved disappeared. 

Just being acknowledged as a fellow human being and as an artist are more than enough.

Social media is more than enough to inspire and get inspired without being too close to anyone.

A kind stranger, ANQI, wishes you an authentic new year. 

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PS: My hubby Yaman is an exception to the "kind stranger" rule. It still took me more than 8 years to be comfortable with being myself around him, I was too focused on his mental / emotional state and it took me a long time to notice my needs / emotions around him yet alone express them. He encouraged me. Thank you love ❤️
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#beingtruetoyourself
#authenticself
#artistjournal
#anqi
#hiromita
#aboutmyself
#endofyear
#selfreflection
#mentalhealthawareness 
#codependencyrecovery

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- **Views:** 267
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## Tags

authenticself, aboutmyself, hiromita, anqi, mentalhealthawareness, beingtruetoyourself, endofyear, codependencyrecovery, artistjournal, selfreflection

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