# @crystalmendez.co on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/C64FyP-ArV5
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/61802962-crystalmendezco-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/5c7fe5a114.jpg
- **Posted:** 2024-05-12T17:15:31.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Crystal Mendez (@crystalmendez.co) — https://gondola.cc/crystalmendez.co

## Caption

Letting go of the “good girl” persona. 

Growing up I was the “good girl.” Compliant, quiet. Volunteered for everything. Started babysitting at 8 years old. Had too much responsibility placed on my little shoulders too soon. 

That turned me into living a life of people pleasing. And let me tell you (but I’m sure you know this) people pleasing is soul sucking. 

It took me until my 30s to set boundaries. I started with the people closest to me and most times I felt like a bitch…

I had to say NO I won’t give you money, NO I won’t babysit your kids, NO you can’t come over. No. No.No. 

Each NO got easier. A lot of healing took place and me saying NO helped remove a lot of codependency in our family. 

Setting boundaries took years but it was worth it. And this is a reminder to you - you can be a good person, you can be a kind person and you can still say NO. 

#selfcaresunday #selfcarematters #mindsetcreator

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## Tags

mindsetcreator, selfcarematters, selfcaresunday

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