# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DWkzQSmkxnC
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/62642317-juleswaller-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-04-01T04:05:54.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

## Caption

Every parent I’ve ever spoken to about school refusal says the same thing eventually.

“We’ve tried everything.  Nothing works.”

And I believe them. 
Not because they’re giving up - because they’ve been handed tools that were never designed for what’s actually happening in their child’s body.

When a nervous system is locked in chronic threat, the prefrontal cortex - the part responsible for logic, reasoning and responding to rewards - goes offline. 

This isn’t a parenting failure.  It’s neuroscience.

You cannot consequence a child into feeling safe. 
And until the nervous system feels safe, nothing else lands.

If this explains what you’ve been living - save it. 

🍒 And if someone you know is being told to try harder, share it. 

They need to hear this. ♥️

- Jules
(University mental health trained mum - who’s lived it)

#schoolrefusal #schoolstress #schoolanxiety #schoolsupport #teenanxiety

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schoolrefusal, schoolanxiety, schoolstress, schoolsupport, teenanxiety

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