# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

- **Type:** Image
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DWp-Ty3k5oi
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/62642326-juleswaller-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/265ec6cb7d.jpg
- **Posted:** 2026-04-03T04:18:42.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

## Caption

The nervous system doesn’t respond to pressure when it’s already in shutdown.

That’s not a parenting failure. 
That’s biology.

When a child is in dorsal vagal collapse - the deepest state of the threat response - the part of the brain responsible for learning, reasoning and responding to incentives is offline. 

Pushing harder doesn’t reach it.
It can’t.

Recovery started the day I stopped trying to override her nervous system and started working with it instead.

100 days.
First choice university.

🍒 If you’re in it right now, save this for the hard days. 

- Jules 
(University mental health trained mum - who’s lived this).

#schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolsupport #teenanxiety #childrensmentalhealth

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schoolrefusal, schoolanxiety, schoolsupport, teenanxiety, childrensmentalhealth

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