# @_heartmom_ on Instagram

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- **Posted:** 2025-05-24T03:17:17.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Kelly McKee Zajfen (@_heartmom_) — https://gondola.cc/_heartmom_

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Dear Georgie 

The 6th grade year is ending and I’m trying so hard to show up in a big way for Lily. It’s harder. Not easier as they would assume. So many landmines. So many new ones…

I know you would be smiling so big and excited for all that the new year will bring. You’d probably be the only one again in class to get 100% on your math test and I can imagine already mastered German since you started not that long ago… 

Graduation of 6th grade feels impossible to me. Upper school and the passage of time feels impossible to me. I hope you’re holding Lily’s hand next week. Nothing has been easy. I tried to make it easier but getting everyone on board was harder than I thought. I can’t thank you enough for walking beside her everyday. I know you’re there. She knows it. We know it. 

I told Lily we hold three bags. 

1. The toolbox. For landmines. We need this toolbox to navigate the impossible moments. We build this box with educators. Therapists. Friends. Community. Our own intuition. This helps us move through them. 

2. The Grace box. We know people will do and say the wrong things and they don’t mean to. It’s okay. We understand. So we take out our grace and we hand it to them. We don’t need to say a thing. We will pass around grace forever.

3. The F U box. It’s for anytime we can’t take the sadness and anger and we don’t know where to put it. It belongs somewhere though. And we say it. Write it. Feel it. And put it away. It’s okay. Things can feel too much. It belongs here. 

I hope you are proud of us for how we are navigating this world without you. I hope you know how much we see you in every single chapter and moment that comes. How much we miss you. How much our everyday is for you. 

I’ll see you at graduation. I’ll certainly be looking. Somewhere amongst the chaos and laughter and celebration. You should be there. So I’ll make sure you are. 

❤️‍🩹

#grief #griefjourney #siblingloss #childloss

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