# @thecybersecuritybabe on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DRVAHilEYPc
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/63300401-thecybersecuritybabe-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2025-11-21T18:13:47.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Kourtney Hayes, MBA | Cybersecurity Leader| Tech Content Creator (@thecybersecuritybabe) — https://gondola.cc/thecybersecuritybabe

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10 things I’d tell you as your big sister… if I wasn’t scared of hurting your feelings❤️🤭 don’t tussle with me in the comments, just saying what needs to be said OUT LOUD:

1. If he’s not planning dates, not consistent, not consistently communicating, not checking in,
not making you feel emotionally safe, and not showing real effort…
Girl, he don’t like you. Replace that man with a man who actually will.

2. The life you want requires a version of you you haven’t met yet. Stop trying to drag your old habits into a future that doesn’t fit them.

3. The world treats you how you treat yourself.
And you’re allowed to outgrow the version of you that was built in survival. Start honoring who you’re becoming, not who you had to be.

4. You’re not behind, baby. You’re just not showing up consistently for the life you keep praying for.

5. Your confidence comes from the promises you keep to yourself, not motivation. Start keeping small promises,  they build you back up.

6. You’re not lazy. You just don’t have a system. Break the big thing into one 10-minute task and start there.
Momentum is built, not found.

7. Doing it scared is how every successful woman you admire started. Courage comes after you move, not before.

8. God can open the door, but you still have to walk through it. A little consistency every day will take you further than waiting to “feel ready.” Pick one habit and do it daily, something simple you can stick to. Show up even when you don’t feel like it.

9. You are sitting on a million-dollar idea. Start.
You don’t need an audience, a podcast, or another motivational speech, you need action.

10. And about that friend… If you feel like she doesn’t like you, she doesn’t. Stop pouring into people who are quietly competing with you.

Set: @alo 🩷

#womenintech #cybersecurity #tech #dc #techinfluencer #grateful #savethispost #motivation #pilates

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