# @adrimoench on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DAoICfsPJL3
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/63487229-adrimoench-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2024-10-02T15:37:45.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Trauma Informed Coach / Expanded States (@adrimoench) — https://gondola.cc/adrimoench

## Caption

10.2.24

There’s a balance waiting to be restored that can support us towards the reminder of truth - our own intuitive truth, not externalized by attachment. In trauma work a child survives often by sacrificing autonomy for attachment. Reclamation of autonomy is the balance by which healthy attachment can form, in not previously present. 

When we cling and are attached to the structures around us we start to get comfortable with the structural illusion of security. 

Our attachments shape the perceived structure in life, more money creates the perception of being financially stable, marriage creates the perception of healthy partners, habits create the perception of productivity, routines create the perception of being in control. 

Our attachments to these often form out of an internalized idea that we MUST do these in order to be perceived as acceptable, competent, worthy of love.

When in reality, the only attachment that should matter is the healthy attachment to self that is so often neglected in the parent/child processes. 

Change happens when our attachments or structures start to form fault lines, and we can no longer stay in the decay without dying. We are either changing or dying. Death is the biggest mirror to truth. 

If we are stagnant in any aspect of our lives, then entropy starts to creep in. Before we know it, our priorities to our attachments either accelerate decay, through our addressed ego and willingness to let death be a natural part of rebirth and change, or we try to control decay and death, as a way to avoid change, becoming stagnant in our perceived unaddressed ego holding onto outdated attachments that become toxic waste. 

Deconstruction is the process by which we look at the decay of our complicit systems and start stepping into our true self independent of our conditioned beliefs about self or the systems we were raised in.

If we are lucky, our changes reflect a ripple effect paving a way for change for others.

#deconstruction #traumarecovery #traumainformed #plantmedicine #genekeys #compassion #change #alignment #recovery #dv #domesticviolence #exmo

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traumainformed, deconstruction, dv, compassion, exmo, traumarecovery, genekeys, recovery, plantmedicine, domesticviolence, change, alignment

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