# @adrimoench on Instagram - **Type:** Video - **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/C8Z29HMJCxF - **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/63487341-adrimoench-instagram - **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/9bb7336d2d.jpg - **Posted:** 2024-06-19T16:30:00.000+00:00 - **Account Owner:** Trauma Informed Coach / Expanded States (@adrimoench) — https://gondola.cc/adrimoench ## Caption 2.4.24 Thoughts It can be hard some days to remember that it can take years to build up the courage to ask for what you need - OR - give yourself what you need. To give yourself permission to respect yourself enough when it has been programmed in you that IF you ask for permission, internalized systemic patriarchy and internalized misogyny (especially as women) will signal to you that you are a burden, not worthy enough, or selfish if you ask. Phrases my inner critic would parrot to me anxiously that I didn’t realize where defense mechanisms 👇: Other people have it harder than me, do I really need help? Why can’t I get over this, other people seem to be doing so much better at this than I am… It’s okay to help others but not okay to ask for help… It really isn’t as bad as you are making it out to be… It could have been so much worse… Have you done everything you possibly can before you ask… You are weak for asking… Just get over it… Grow up… This is a SMALL sampling of an inner critic that minimizes - programmed by others, an internalized language projected onto me. Masking became a workaround - inadvertent and subconscious as a form of protecting one’s soul and essence if it’s not safe to show up for who you are. Years, decades, spent managing others in order to be seen, in order to be loved, in order to have a job, in order to parent your own children - the critic was the manager. Stepping away from the mask can be terrifying as it requires a level of trust with one’s self that they are no longer relying on the critic. The process of unmasking can be a difficult as it requires a release of denial, and also forces you to become very accountable to how managing others has protected you from experiencing rejection, loss or punishment while also denying your true reality. So what are you afraid of? Their rejection when you stop managing them, or your success when you start managing you? #newancestors #dharma #iamlove #ancestralhealing #transformativewellness #alchemy #energywork #compassionateinquiry #mind #body #soul #yoga #iascend #holistichealth #innerwisdom #spirituality #wellness #weareiascend #traumarecovery #asd #ocd #breathwork ## Stats - **Views:** 223 - **Likes:** 18 - **Shares:** 0 - **Comments:** 0 ## Tags newancestors, weareiascend, innerwisdom, soul, energywork, compassionateinquiry, body, asd, ancestralhealing, traumarecovery, spirituality, holistichealth, dharma, yoga, transformativewellness, breathwork, wellness, ocd, mind, iascend, iamlove, alchemy --- Copyright (c) Gondola