# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DXdV4QrEwcB
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/64642313-juleswaller-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-04-23T03:05:55.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

## Caption

The sticker chart lasted three days. 
The school refusal lasted two years.

Every reward system made sense on paper. 
And every time it failed, I added it to the list of things I must be doing wrong.

Nobody told me that rewards require a regulated nervous system to work. 

That cognitive flexibility - the skill every plan was trying to build - goes offline the moment the body decides it’s not safe.

The problem was never the system. 
It was that we were using a cortex-level tool on a nervous system in alarm.

I have the degree. And I’ve lived it. 

🍒 Comment “Toolkit” for help.

- Jules ♥️

#schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolsupport #teenanxiety #kidsmentalhealth

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schoolrefusal, schoolanxiety, schoolsupport, teenanxiety, kidsmentalhealth

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