# @un_filtered_wisdom on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DYGeXiDhdA1
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/65447749-un-filtered-wisdom-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-05-09T02:33:23.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Rhaab Grien (@un_filtered_wisdom) — https://gondola.cc/un_filtered_wisdom

## Caption

One thing you have to understand is that women can never really dictate what it means to be a man or define masculinity for men because they haven’t lived the experience themselves.

A lot of the time, when someone says, “A real man does this,” what they’re really describing is a man who makes them feel emotionally comfortable, safe, validated, or secure. 

But masculinity was never built around comfort alone.

The problem is, if a man builds his entire identity around female approval, he slowly disconnects from the traits that actually make him grounded, respected, capable, and attractive in the first place. 

He becomes agreeable instead of honest. Soft instead of disciplined. Performative instead of authentic.

And then the same behaviours that were encouraged eventually become the exact reasons he loses respect in the relationship.

That doesn’t mean men shouldn’t listen to women at all. It means a man has to understand the difference between compassion and self-abandonment. 

Between being emotionally intelligent and becoming weak, passive, and directionless trying to please everybody around him.

Masculinity is something men refine through experience, responsibility, hardship, discipline, failure, and pressure. Not through constantly reshaping themselves to fit somebody else’s comfort zone.

#masculinity #selfrespect #mensmentalhealth #modernmen #discipline

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modernmen, selfrespect, masculinity, mensmentalhealth, discipline

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