# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DZ2mFXFky8H
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/66971984-juleswaller-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-06-21T15:31:19.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

## Caption

Nobody hands you this list. You assemble it yourself, slowly, in the worst possible way - one failed morning at a time.

I learnt every one of these the long way. 
I pushed when I should’ve paused. 
I treated the meltdown as the start of the problem when it was actually the end of a long night her body had already spent bracing. 
I kept looking for the thing at school that was “causing” it, when the cause was never in the building at all.

If I could go back and hand my earlier self one page, it’d be this one. 

Not because it fixes everything overnight - but because it points you at the right thing. 

Once you stop fighting her behaviour and start settling her body, the mornings stop being a battle you have to win.

If you’re still in the long-way-round part, comment TOOLKIT and I’ll send you the shortcut I didn’t have. 

- Jules ❤️

#schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolmornings #teenanxiety #teenmentalhealth

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schoolrefusal, schoolanxiety, teenmentalhealth, schoolmornings, teenanxiety

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