# @drlauraberman on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DbCDOjPTizj
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/68121954-drlauraberman-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/9043a21057.jpg
- **Posted:** 2026-07-20T22:55:11.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Laura Berman (@drlauraberman) — https://gondola.cc/drlauraberman

## Caption

Relationships tend to reveal the parts of us that still need healing...

And many of those wounds are rooted in childhood trauma, not who you truly are.

Many of the patterns we struggle with in adulthood are actually adaptations we developed much earlier in life. 

They were ways of staying safe, staying connected, avoiding conflict, or earning love. 

The problem is that what protected you as a child can create challenges in your relationships as an adult.

Some common examples include:
1️⃣ You apologize for things that do not require an apology.

2️⃣ You struggle to rest without feeling guilty.

3️⃣ Receiving love or appreciation feels uncomfortable.

4️⃣ You find yourself preparing for problems before they happen.

5️⃣ Independence feels safer than depending on others.

6️⃣ Other people's emotions often feel like your responsibility.

7️⃣ You dismiss your own pain because others had it worse.

8️⃣ Feeling calm feels unfamiliar compared to being on alert.

9️⃣ Boundaries feel difficult to maintain... or you avoid vulnerability completely.

🔟 You work hard to avoid disappointing people.

Which of these patterns have you noticed in yourself?

#childhoodtrauma #relationshiphealing #innerchildhealing #drlauraberman

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