# @sheisfila on Instagram

- **Type:** Image
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DbLnm8_kor5
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/68294311-sheisfila-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/050aee4e6c.jpg
- **Posted:** 2026-07-24T16:00:06.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Fila McMillan-Antwine (@sheisfila) — https://gondola.cc/sheisfila

## Caption

This isn't just about love. 

The same pattern that has you over-giving in relationships doesn't stay contained there. It's in the friendship where you're always the one reaching out. In how much of yourself gets handed to a job before anyone's asked for it. In the family dynamic where you've quietly become everyone's shock absorber.

Same pattern. Different rooms.

Going deeper on this on Substack: https://filaantwine.substack.com/

Where else in your life have you noticed this same pattern, outside of romantic relationships?

#PatternWork #IdentityWork #WomenOver40 #RealTalk

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realtalk, womenover40, identitywork, patternwork

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