# @xosumix on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DbuV6zlROrz
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/68910713-xosumix-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-08-07T03:52:10.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Sumi X - LA recording artist (@xosumix) — https://gondola.cc/xosumix

## Caption

I felt rushed. She said she “wasn’t gonna slate two people.” I felt like she was acting like we were running out of time. 

Because it was at the end of the opening, I absorbed HER anxious energy as if it were mine. 

I started feeling anxious and like OMG I couldn’t take up too much space or time, I didn’t want to “cause trouble.” BUT the fact was - her anxiety and frantic energy were NOT mine to absorb. 

I was in my HEAD with each photographer and NOT OWNING my own moment! 

I was shrinking when honestly this was my moment to shine.

It was not until the last photographer asked me to “c’mon give me some glam” did i realize i was being mediocre.

So many of us women raised to be “good” have to learn this same lesson over and over again. I’m sharing as a reminder to ALL of US! 

1. don’t let other people’s energy interrupt yours! 
2. as a woman living in the patriarchy, always take up MORE SPACE than feels comfortable 
3. don’t rush
4. people will treat you how you treat yourself 

Only after I got off did I see that they no one else was being rushed! There were so many ppl after me taking their sweet time. It was MY responsibility to take up as much space as I wanted in that moment. 

#popartist #redcarpet #womensempowerment #takeupspace #ownyourself

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## Tags

takeupspace, redcarpet, womensempowerment, popartist, ownyourself

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