# @paulscanlonuk on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/Db-51cWTd6H
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/69253846-paulscanlonuk-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/997b4b6ba5.jpg
- **Posted:** 2026-08-13T14:00:05.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Paul Scanlon (@paulscanlonuk) — https://gondola.cc/paulscanlonuk

## Caption

Do you really have a boundary if the other person has to agree with it?

A boundary isn’t something you need to convince someone else to accept.

You don’t need a long explanation, a perfect reason or their approval for it to be valid.
Sometimes the clearest boundary is simply:
“I can’t do that anymore.”

And that’s uncomfortable — especially when someone has benefited from you not having boundaries.

But if your boundary depends on their agreement, it isn’t really a boundary. It’s a request.

You are allowed to set boundaries that other people don’t like.

#boundaries #selfawareness #relationshipadvice #leadership #peoplepleasing

## Stats

- **Views:** 2,433
- **Likes:** 96
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- **Comments:** 8

## Tags

selfawareness, leadership, relationshipadvice, boundaries, peoplepleasing

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