# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DcgeWyKTPxE
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/69794035-juleswaller-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-08-26T14:55:13.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

## Caption

100 days.

That’s how long my daughter was out of school in one school year alone, at her lowest point. 

Not because she didn’t want to learn. Because her nervous system was in a state that no amount of “just try” or “be brave” could talk her out of.

We did the things we were told to do. 
🔸CBT. 
🔸Graded exposure. 
🔸Reward charts. 

Some of it helped a little.  None of it touched what was actually happening in her body.

It took years - and a lot of research I shouldn’t have had to do myself - to understand why. 

The therapies most of us are handed weren’t wrong. They were incomplete. Built for a nervous system that’s regulated enough to reason with. 

Hers wasn’t. 

And the research on why has existed for years - it just hasn’t made it into most consulting rooms yet.

She’s now in her second year at university. Not because we found a magic fix. 

Because we finally found the missing layer.

If you’re in the 100-day version of this right now - it’s not the end of the road. It might be the beginning of the right one.

Follow for more.

- Jules ♥️

#schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schooldropoff #kidsmentalhealth #childrensmentalhealth

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schoolrefusal, schoolanxiety, childrensmentalhealth, schooldropoff, kidsmentalhealth

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