# @sheisfila on Instagram

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/Dc4TbYWD0Fl
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/70030229-sheisfila-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/0806d8f16a.jpg
- **Posted:** 2026-09-04T21:00:04.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Fila McMillan-Antwine (@sheisfila) — https://gondola.cc/sheisfila

## Caption

You don't have a problem with love. 

You have a problem with what you've learned to do to feel loved.

If you're a successful, capable woman who is exhausted in her relationships — this video is for you.

Because here's what nobody is saying:

You're not tired because you love too much.

You're tired because you learned to create security through over-giving, over-functioning, and being needed.

That's the Over-Nurturer pattern. And it doesn't just show up in romance — it shows up as the "I got it." The "I'll help." The "don't worry about me."

You're the woman everyone comes to when they need something.

But when you need someone — who do you call?

Being needed is not the same as being loved.

And being the strong one doesn't mean you were meant to carry everyone.

You can love deeply. You can be generous. You can be supportive — without abandoning yourself in the process.

That is the work. 👑

I'm hosting a FREE 3-day live workshop — the Relationship Reset — starting September 8th.

We're going to identify the pattern, understand where it comes from, and begin changing the way you show up in love.

Drop "workshop" in the comments or click the link in my bio to join us. 🖤

#OverNurturer #RelationshipReset #SacredQueen #WomenOver40 #LovePatterns #HighAchievingWomen #FreeWorkshop #TheQueendom #PatternWork #SelfLove #Womanhood

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## Tags

freeworkshop, relationshipreset, womanhood, lovepatterns, womenover40, highachievingwomen, sacredqueen, patternwork, overnurturer, thequeendom, selflove

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