# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DdAk1YwE8oo
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/70071290-juleswaller-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-09-08T02:06:59.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

## Caption

During the hardest part of school refusal, my daughter missed more than 100 days of school in one school year . 

Not because she was lazy, or spoiled, or “just needed a push.” 

Something in her body had decided the building wasn’t safe, long before either of us understood why.

I remember the exact morning it clicked for me. 
She wasn’t looking at me with attitude. 
She was looking at me the way you look at someone when your body has taken over and your mind hasn’t caught up yet.

Once I understood that, everything changed. 
Not overnight. 
But it changed.

She’s now at her first choice university, studying her first choice degree .

I’m university mental health trained, and a mum who’s lived every single bit of this. 

If you’re standing in that car park right now, I promise you’re not seeing what you think you’re seeing.

The full sequence, body safety first, then everything else, is in the School Refusal Recovery Toolkit.

🍒 Comment “Toolkit”.

With love,

Jules 🩷

#schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #teenmentalhealth #childrensmentalhealth #schoolcounselor

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schoolrefusal, schoolanxiety, schoolcounselor, teenmentalhealth, childrensmentalhealth

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