# @nycgaydad on TikTok

- **Type:** Video
- **Original URL:** https://www.tiktok.com/@nycgaydad/video/7684706053690379533
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/70271594-nycgaydad-tiktok
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/2f6421161c.jpg
- **Posted:** 2026-09-12T17:44:42.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** José Rolón (@nycgaydad) — https://gondola.cc/nycgaydad

## Caption

I became a widower—and had seven days to decide whether I would become a single father of three. My husband, Tim, died suddenly from a heart attack in his sleep while away on a business trip. Our son, Avery, was only eight months old, and our surrogate was eleven weeks pregnant with twins. In the middle of grieving my husband, I had to make an impossible decision about the future of our family. On the morning of Tim’s funeral, I woke up in the dark and thought: Avery just lost his father. If something happens to me, I don’t want him to be alone in this world. That day, during Tim’s eulogy, I told nearly everyone for the first time that our family was still growing—and that twins were coming. I would never judge anyone who made a different decision. But for me, continuing that pregnancy became the best decision I could have made. Avery is Tim’s biological child which is a blessing he’s left behind as they look so much alike, and the girls are mine. All three share the same Brazilian egg donor—so yes, my kids are all half Brazilian while the girls are also half Puerto Rican 🇵🇷🇧🇷 To the 20,000 new people who found our family this past month: welcome. This is how I became a widowed gay dad of three—and how, even in the deepest grief, our family found a way forward. If you’re new here, introduce yourself below. And if grief has ever forced you to rebuild a life you didn’t plan for, I hope you know you’re not alone. ❤️ #WidowedFather #SingleDad #SurrogacyJourney #LGBTQFamily

## Stats

- **Views:** 397,598
- **Likes:** 45,224
- **Shares:** 442
- **Comments:** 670

## Tags

surrogacyjourney, lgbtqfamily, widowedfather, singledad

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