# @melrobbins on YouTube - **Type:** Video - **Original URL:** https://youtube.com/watch?v=brVzDv0Ze-o - **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/70615098-melrobbins-youtube - **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/575237499c.jpg - **Posted:** 2026-09-21T09:00:09.000+00:00 - **Account Owner:** Mel Robbins (@melrobbins) — https://gondola.cc/melrobbins ## Caption Today, Mel is digging into The Let Them Theory in a brand-new way – and answering the #1 question she’s been asked since the book became an international sensation with 10+ million copies sold: How do you use The Let Them Theory with the people you love who also frustrate you, worry you, disappoint you, or are just plain difficult? It’s one thing to say “Let Them” when someone cuts you off in traffic or an annoying stranger gets under your skin at the store. But what do you do when it’s someone you care about – your parent, your partner, your child, or your closest friend? There has to be an easier way. Today, Mel will show you that easier way by helping you see where your power really is. Mel is walking you through a relationship-changing 3-part framework she’s never taught on the podcast before, one that will help you stop wasting your energy trying to control what you can’t so you can protect your peace and finally take back control of what you can. Using real questions from listeners, Mel will show you exactly what to do when someone you love won’t take care of themselves, seems unmotivated, judges you, controls the mood in every room, or just keeps disappointing you. You’ll learn: -The 3 mistakes that are making your relationships stressful and frustrating -How to stop someone’s behavior from controlling your mood -What to do when you want someone to change more than they want it for themselves -How judging, pressuring, and trying to motivate someone can make things worse -The dangerous trap of thinking “they should know better” and the question to ask instead -How to love someone who is hard to love without losing yourself in the process By the end of this conversation, you’ll know exactly how to handle your most difficult relationships – with less stress, more confidence, and a clear path forward. People only change when they’re ready to change. But you don’t have to wait for that to happen to make your own life a lot easier. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-436. Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Welcome 01:51 Why Do You Feel Stuck In Life? 03:48 Why You Can’t Change Other People 07:49 The 3-Step Framework to Handle Any Difficult Relationship 17:01 What to Do When Your Child Is Unmotivated 23:35 How to Stop Being Afraid of Judgment 29:27 How to Set Boundaries With Controlling People 34:02 How to Communicate What You Need 40:59 Why Some People Can’t Change 43:21 How to Deal With Difficult People — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah ## Stats - **Views:** 5,832 - **Likes:** 482 - **Shares:** 0 - **Comments:** 31 ## Tags 1 --- Copyright (c) Gondola