# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/DdxnfcQk11K
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/70931402-juleswaller-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-09-27T03:12:59.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

## Caption

School “defiant”? That’s what schools say when they don’t get it.

When a child looks “oppositional” about School, it’s usually a body alarm, not a choice. 

That’s why pep‑talks, consequences and even rewards won’t land when the alarm is high.

Try this tonight: 
🔸 Three slow exhales together. 
🔸 No eye contact needed. 
🔸 One line only: “I can feel your School alarm. You’re safe with me.” 

If shutdown hits, skip words first. 
🔸 Co‑regulate. 
🔸 Offer a yes/no card or 1–10 fingers. 
🔸 When the body settles, language returns.

Created by a university mental‑health‑trained mum with lived experience. 

Comment “Toolkit” and I’ll DM you the 2 free exercises.  Inside the Toolkit you’ll get the full step-by-step plan.  Then check your DM’s ❤️

Trusted by 700+ School families.

Get the School Refusal Recovery Toolkit – $47. Link in bio.

#schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolstress #teenmentalhealth #childrensmentalhealth

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schoolrefusal, schoolanxiety, schoolstress, teenmentalhealth, childrensmentalhealth

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