# @juleswaller_ on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/Dd9FFLNk7JN
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- **Posted:** 2026-10-01T14:03:12.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Julie Waller (Jules) | School Refusal Support (@juleswaller_) — https://gondola.cc/juleswaller_

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School refusal isn’t defiance. 
It’s not laziness. 
And it’s not something you caused.

It’s a nervous system alarm that fires before your child even has a chance to think about being brave.

That alarm floods their body with the same stress chemicals as physical danger. 
Their muscles tighten. 
Their stomach churns. 
Their chest gets heavy. 

And no amount of reasoning, reward charts, or “just try for one class” can override what their body is screaming.

This is why the strategies that work for other kids don’t work for yours.

This is why mornings keep getting harder instead of easier.

And this is why the answer isn’t pushing harder. 
It’s starting somewhere different.

You calm the body first. 

Then the thinking brain can come back online. 
Then the brave part of your child has room to show up.

The School Refusal Recovery Toolkit walks you through this. From understanding what’s really happening in your child’s body to rebuilding their confidence around school.

Comment TOOLKIT and I’ll send you the link 💛

♥️ Jules — university mental health trained and a mum who’s lived it.

#schoolrefusal #schoolanxiety #schoolrun #schooldropoff #schoolsucks

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schoolrefusal, schoolanxiety, schoolrun, schoolsucks, schooldropoff

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