# @doc_amen on Instagram

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- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/71646616-doc-amen-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2026-10-13T17:11:09.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Dr. Amen (@docamen) — https://gondola.cc/docamen

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Unpopular opinion, we are raising mentally weak children by doing too much for them. Modern over-parenting is contributing to mentally weak children because parents frequently step in to solve problems instead of allowing kids to build resilence. 

Core Arguments on Over-Parenting
1. Solving Every Problem: When parents rush to fix every struggle—such as bringing forgotten homework or jackets to school—they rob children of the chance to develop mental toughness and 
2. Handling Boredom: Instead of immediately entertaining or fixing a child’s boredom, parents should prompt kids to figure out their own solutions. 
3. Boosting Parental vs. Child Self-Esteem: Over-parenting often makes parents feel like they are doing a great job, but it actually diminishes a child’s confidence in their own abilities. 

Key Recommendations for Building Mental Strength
Ask Instead of Fix: When a child brings you a problem, ask them, “What are you going to do about it?”before offering any advice or intervention. 
    
Firm Boundaries and Rules: Permissive parenting—whether driven by kindness or guilt—leads to unhealthy behavior. Children need structure, chores, and clear expectations. 

#parenting #raisingmentallystrongkids #brainhealth

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brainhealth, parenting, raisingmentallystrongkids

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