# @melrobbins on YouTube - **Type:** Video - **Original URL:** https://youtube.com/watch?v=NRGxKdNlSDs - **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/76691617-melrobbins-youtube - **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/postThumbnails/b9574e2be0.jpg - **Posted:** 2022-11-03T09:00:20.000+00:00 - **Account Owner:** Mel Robbins (@melrobbins) — https://gondola.cc/melrobbins ## Caption Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — How do I know if I’m in a relationship with a narcissist? Are certain personalities more drawn to narcissists? Can I heal if I was raised by a narcissist? How do I handle narcissists at work? Why do I keep attracting narcissists into my life? How can I keep a #narcissist in my life… and not go crazy? And, most of all: What EXACTLY do I do to cope with #narcissists? You have been flooding my inbox with questions since @DoctorRamani the world’s leading expert on #narcissism, spoke about it on the podcast. You asked to bring her back and I’m listening: #DoctorRamani is here with answers to all of your questions. This episode is for you if you… - Have no idea what #narcissism is - Were raised by a #narcissist - Are married to a narcissist - Think you might be dating a narcissist - Work with/for a narcissist - Want to know the telltale red flags so you’re better prepared - Are afraid you’re a narcissist Today you get: - Two important tools to help you start your own healing and create #boundaries - Key takeaways to help you move forward - One solid truth that will ground you in your #confidence You’ll also learn: - What you can do today to begin your own healing - How to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and maintain your sanity - The signs to watch for to know if you’re with a narcissist - What #gaslighting looks like in real life - The situations that make you more susceptible - How to coach your friend who’s dating a narcissist - If you’re more prone to attracting narcissists - Why you ditch the “good ones” for the “bad ones” - About “trauma bonds” - The signs of “love bombing” - About the “Golden Goose” phenomenon in the workplace - What yellow rocking and gray rocking are Listen in on today’s conversation. You will not only be glad you did – you’ll also leave armed with the knowledge, tools, and resources you need to diffuse the impact of a narcissist, get your power back, and know that whatever it is that this person says or does – it’s not your fault. Xo, Mel PS: Once you’re done with this one, if you haven’t had a chance to listen to Dr. Ramani’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast, absolutely spend some time listening to it: “5 Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist & How To Protect Yourself” 👉 https://youtu.be/1gS7uV6Bj0s In this episode: 00:00 Intro 00:47 Introducing Dr. Ramani 01:22 What makes you more prone to dating a narcissist 12:38 Red flags that you are dating narcissist 18:22 Love Bombing 25:01 Gaslighting 29:43 How to break up with a narcissist 33:59 How to heal from narcissistic relationship 36:33 Key Concept: It’s not your fault 38:20 What if your boss is a narcissist? 42:07 Tool: Gray Rocking 45:08 Tool: Yellow rocking 47:18 Tool: Don’t Go D.E.E.P. 52:23 Trauma bonds with a narcissist 58:20 Key Concept: Finding tiny acts of rebellion — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah ## Stats - **Views:** 460,839 - **Likes:** 11,885 - **Shares:** 0 - **Comments:** 1,168 ## Credits No public credits are recorded here. This does not identify who made the post. ## Tags narcissism, gaslighting, narcissists, doctorramani, confidence, boundaries, 1, narcissist --- Copyright (c) Gondola