# @lifesadiscoball on Instagram

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- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/CPGDJinHigJ
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/8940006-lifesadiscoball-instagram
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- **Posted:** 2021-05-20T12:19:21.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Heather Petri (@heatherpetri) — https://gondola.cc/heatherpetri

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YOU CAN’T HEAL, THAT WHICH YOU DON’T FEEL. 

Read that again. You can’t heal, that which you don’t feel.

I used to subscribe to the “good vibes only” mantra. I mean, who wouldn’t love to be in a good vibes only lane?

The problematic aspect of that statement is this … where’s the space to then be human? To show up, as you are, with whatever vibes or feels you’ve got?

I also no longer subscribe to the ‘fake it til you make it’ mantra. I dropped that one a handful of years ago, when I realized it was just feeding the beasts of armor, inauthenticity, and shame. And they get fed enough already. Also, faking it is just so damn exhausting. 

The reality is, the ‘good vibes only’ feeds the ‘fake it til you make it’. You hide, and push, and shove all the REAL feels, into the deep, dark being of yourself. And suddenly you find yourself lonely, in the depths of isolation, and lost. Struggling to heal, because what’s real?

You can’t heal, that which you don’t feel.

And so, if you stay in the good vibes only lane, or you keep faking it til you’re making it, you’re stuffing the real feelings, avoiding them, pretending they’re not there. 

The thing is, they’ll find their way to the surface at some point. They’ll manifest in unhealthy behaviors, bad choices, depression, anxiety, shame, stagnation, and hopelessness. 

Being real, is being free. Being real is giving yourself permission that you deserve authenticity. Being real, even if that means your moment/day/week/month are not ‘good vibes only’, means you’re honoring your health - mental, emotional, and otherwise. 

Being real, being human, feeling it all - it’s the best gift you can give yourself. It’s rooted in bravery and courage. And it’s steeped in authentic self love, and grace.

And it’s healing. 🤍

#gracefulwarriors #vulnerability #courage #healing #acceptance #grace #real

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gracefulwarriors, acceptance, vulnerability, grace, real, healing, courage

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