# @lifesadiscoball on Instagram

- **Type:** Image
- **Original URL:** https://www.instagram.com/p/BkeOA5ylbEt
- **Gondola URL:** https://gondola.cc/posts/8940402-lifesadiscoball-instagram
- **Thumbnail:** https://img.gondola.cc/tr:w-,h-,fo-auto/thumbnails/00a44f92d9.jpg
- **Posted:** 2018-06-26T03:06:06.000+00:00
- **Account Owner:** Heather Petri (@heatherpetri) — https://gondola.cc/heatherpetri

## Caption

This. This. This.
“Hurting people will not heal your pain. Using people will not make you feel valued.”
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#Repost @createthelove
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I know hurt can be paralyzing. Our hearts when broken can have us do crazy things and we can become... well...Assholes. 
We can often make the next people in our lives pay for the people from our past.
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I say this not out of judgement, but understanding. I've been there.
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And I want you to understand the process:
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We shut down from love because love hurt us... And that doesn't feel fair. So instead of working through the pain and feeling it, we become that pain. But when we do that we avoid the work. We avoid the growth. We are literally being challenged to stay and operate on a high level, but in order to seek to refuge from the unknown, we lower ourselves to our past partner's level.
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You are too powerful and too amazing to become your past lovers. Do not hide or poison the very essence that allows you to love. Hurting people will not heal your pain. Using people will not make you feel valued. Cheating on others will not fix how much cheating hurt you.
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It is up to all of us to do the work. To choose greatness and growth when faced with the easy path out... And one of the biggest challenges is embracing who we are when who we are resulted in feeling hurt and heartbroken. 
There is someone who knows how to love all of you, but they can't do that if you're pretending to be someone else. #createthelove

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