About 10 years ago I showed up at a close relative’s funeral (names redacted for privacy). This was a close relative and we came in about 2 days before the funeral to be with his family and other cousins. As people get older things change and I went with, actually one of his grandsons, to the Episcopal Church they attended to just generally help with whatever arrangements needed to be made for the funeral. I was not part of the planning committee nor was I involved (I thought) in any type of arrangement of the funeral. The Anglican priest that they had known for many, many years had retired the year before and moved away and a younger priest was in charge of the congregation who knew of him and his wife and their position in the community but did not know him personally. Other family members arrived and the funeral director arrived and I was looking over the order of worship and noticed that everything followed the Book of Order and everything was in place but I asked about “Where’s...