My guys, get your heads out of your 🐐 Some men I talk to get fixated on photos. They say they need to know they’re attracted to the woman before talking to her. But beyond the fact that photos are a poor barometer for attraction, these men haven’t once considered how many more opportunities they’d might have to connect with attractive women if they were able to lead with their personality first: their sense of humor, kindness, intelligence, curiosity. Attraction is important. But (1) it isn’t based solely on appearances and (2) photos aren’t going to provide an accurate measure of attraction. If men (and yes, also women) can move past the idea that a quick look at 3-5 (carefully curated) photos is going to accurately indicate whether they’re attracted to someone… well, who knows what possibilities might emerge. #datingthoughts #attraction #datingtok #datingapps #datingprofiles #menbelike #looksfirst