#SayWhat?! : For the first 4+years of our relationship, I admired and respected their coparenting arrangement,” she continues. “It took some getting used to for me as she would walk into house unannounced and unexpected, make herself comfortable, often with friends in tow to spend the day by the pool or hang out on the deck.” “I told my BF that he needs to tell Susie that she’s not coming and he is uncomfortable about ‘rocking the boat’ and her seeking more time with their daughter as he doesn’t feel she is stable enough to provide consistency or stability. He’s probably not wrong but I am not interested in spending my vacation with his ex wife so told him to pick. AITA or are my feelings valid?”