To hear MAGA people tell it, the thought police have been on patrol for the past eight years, rooting out unwoke behavior. But try telling that to anyone who spends time around teenage boys and you’ll be corrected. Whether or not they follow manosphere influencers, preteen- and teen-boy culture is steeped in the language of casual discrimination; they compulsively call one another “gay” and use the r-slur. Boys from progressive families, boys who attend schools with robust cultures of inclusivity — you’d be forgiven for thinking you’d time-traveled back to the mid-’90s, hearing them talk. The F-slur, while still taboo, is nonchalantly thrown around. For parents who remember just a few decades ago when homophobia and ableism were defining features of mainstream culture, this comes as a painful shock. Didn’t we leave this stuff behind? But it’s ironic how many of us who are very comfortable rejecting binaries in other areas of social life seem to have trouble letting go of them when i...