Ever feel like you’re the one no one picks? Like you’re always watching other people get chosen, whether it's in love or life, and wondering what’s wrong with you? That story in your head is killing your confidence. @Dr. Meg Jay is a psychologist, professor, and author who has studied this for years. She says the number one thing holding you back in love is not your looks. It’s not your dating history. It’s what you believe about how wanted you are. It’s called "perceived desirability." It shapes every decision you make in dating. And for a lot of people, that belief got shaped by the wrong people, in the wrong rooms, a long time ago. This is the advice I wish I had in my 20s, and what I’m teaching my kids now. This episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast is out now! 🎧 “What I Wish I Knew in My 20s.” #melrobbins #melrobbinspodcast #desirability #relationshipadvice #20sadvice