Date night after kids is wonderful in theory…but there’s so much backdrop work required! Arranging a sitter, making reservations/plans, prepping for the sitter, getting ready, etc. @sheisapaigeturner talks about the mental load of planning date nights on her page. All of the above can feel like a chore, and not to mention, sometimes we place expectations on our partner to take initiative as a gesture to us. When no one takes initiative, no dates are had. For us, the grand surprise gestures don’t happen. One of us brings up we could use a date night, and then we agree on a date, & debate reservations/plans up until the second we leave 🫠 it’s collaborative, but requires communication. My goal is to get a standing date night on our calendar monthly. We definitely feel more connected after we go out together, but just don’t do it often enough! What does this look like for you? #mentalload #datenight #dateyourspouse #planningdates