The past month has been such a period of introspection and reflection for me as I’ve dealt with the loss of a family member. No, no one passed away, but I lost someone all the same. I made the decision to completely let go of a relationship that has been basically nonexistent for a few years anyway and finally accepted that there is no chance of reconciliation. Even though it wasn’t anything sudden, there was still a bit of mourning that had to be done, and my mind often went to Harper and what impact this might have on her. After a lot of thought, I realized that there’s a lesson in this for her, and it’s to choose the people who choose her. I want Harper to focus on those who are active and present in her life instead of dwelling on the few who aren’t. Those are the people who matter. Those are the relationships we will continue to nurture. Family isn’t necessarily defined by blood or by relation. Our family consists of people who we choose, and more importantly, people who choose u...