As a mom of six, I’ve avoided this topic for years because it comes with real risk and real loss attached to it… but it’s also the question I get asked more than anything: how do you get any sleep when your baby only sleeps in your arms? For so long I tried to do everything “right.” Put the baby down. In a safe spot. Alone. On their back. Drowsy but awake. All the things we’re told from day one. Meanwhile my baby had spent nine months being part of me. They only knew my heartbeat, my breath, my warmth. And suddenly I was supposed to place them in a crib during their first moments on earth and expect them to adjust. I tried. I really did. But I was beyond exhausted. Falling asleep sitting up, in a chair, on the couch. The exact unsafe situations everyone warns us about. Learning about the Safe Sleep Seven changed everything. It gave me a framework, not permission, and helped me understand how to approach bed sharing in the safest way possible. Because the truth is this: parenting is ...