9️⃣ things I’ve learned in nine years of marriage ✨ 1. Marriage is built in the small moments. Big celebrations and trips are wonderful, but most of my marriage is ordinary life: early mornings, quick check-ins during busy days, time together after the kids are asleep, etc. We try to make those moments count. 2. Speak with respect, even when you’re frustrated. Disagreement is inevitable in marriage, but disrespect is optional. It’s important to us to speak in a way that protects the relationship, especially when we disagree. 3. Protect your marriage from unnecessary outside noise. Not every opinion needs a seat at our table. Our marriage is its own ecosystem, and the healthiest thing for us has been keeping certain things between the two of us. 4. Life changes, and your marriage has to grow with it. The relationship Marvin and I had before children, careers, obligations, and in my case grief, had to evolve. The key for us has been growing alongside each other. 5. The way you talk ...