💔 “Pa kenbe pitit ou nan men twòp, li ap vin gate…” A common phrase in Haitian households—rooted in fear, not love. But what if we’ve been getting it all wrong? In many Haitian and Black communities, affection is withheld from children out of fear they’ll become spoiled. But this toxic habit is actually creating insecurely attached adults—people who don’t trust love, don’t feel safe in their bodies, and mistake genuine affection for manipulation or abuse. 🎙️In a recent episode of blackgirlsheal (# 301), Shena, a trauma specialist breaks it down: the absence of healthy touch and open affection in childhood isn’t strength—it’s survival. And we deserve more than that. There's a difference between loving and 'enabling'; but most of us are far from having that problem. It’s time to break the cycle. To raise children who feel safe, loved, and emotionally secure. We can’t heal what we don’t talk about. Have you experienced this growing up? Let’s talk about it in the comments. Healing st...