Life is not easy. It is not fair, and we should avoid the entitlement trap of feeling like a victim; instead, we must get over it and get on with it. The first vital step is asking ourselves what success is to us. Success might mean more money, a happy marriage, a healthy family, helping others, or leaving the world a little bit better place than you found it. Whatever your answer, you should do yourself the favor of not choosing anything that will jeopardize your soul. Prioritize who you are, who you want to be, and avoid spending time with anything that antagonizes your character. We must define our "hill" (success) and then put in the work to maintain it. A key insight is that the first step to knowing our identity is usually not "I know who I am," but rather, "I know who I am not"—through a process of elimination. To find out where you need to be, eliminate who you are not first. Stop giving your time and energy to those people, places, and things that hold you back. This incl...